Growing up, I knew that I had one of the good moms. I knew for various reasons, but mainly I knew from other kids at school. My friends were always telling me how lucky I was to have such a wonderful mom. My mom’s been known for her gentleness, kind heart and positive spirit. She is one of those people that always sees the good in people. I felt blessed by my parents back then and I still do. My mom taught me so much about life, but a few things stand out still to this day…
It’s okay to be different.
Not everyone is built the same way. Some kids are good at sports, some at great at algebra – I was good at neither of those by the way. That’s why it was important for me to know that it’s okay to be different. My mom helped me focus on the things I was good at, instead of the things that didn’t come so naturally to me. She helped me pursue the things I was passionate about and always encouraged me to follow my heart – even if the world was leading me to believe there was something wrong with me.
You can choose to be happy.
Contrary to what the world will try to tell you, my mom was great at reminding us that our joy is up to us. We can choose to be happy. We can choose to be in a good mood, even when we don’t feel like it. Smiling is not just a way of expressing joy, it’s also a choice. My mom taught me that no matter what my circumstances are, I’m in charge of my happiness.
The meaning of unconditional love
My mom always spoke of the importance of unconditional love. She constantly reminded us of Jesus’ unconditional love for us. She told us to treat each other the same way Jesus treated others. Unconditional love by definition is love that doesn’t change or love that is not limited by conditions. Little did my mother realize that she was a shining example of unconditional love and still is. She has shown us love through all of our trials and successes – no matter what.
To love myself because of who made me, not how I’m made
I had low self esteem growing up – being a teenage girl will do that to you. The world will tell you that you are not thin enough, pretty enough or smart enough to cut it in the real world. My mom however, was always reminding us of our true value. It doesn’t matter how were made – short, tall, thin, thick, black or white. What really matters is who made us. We were created with a divine purpose, by a divine creator. We start out as tiny miracles and continue to live a life full of endless opportunities, and that in itself should be reason enough to love yourself – I know God does.
For all these reasons and more I am so grateful to have been raised by such a wonderful mother. Thanks for everything Mama, I love you!