For Such A Time As This…

On May 7th 2018, the neurologist called my cell phone around seven at night. As I sat down slowly I listened intently to the doctor’s words. I felt sweaty, sick, and scared. My heart began to flutter painfully. He spoke quickly, but I barely found words to reply. Hot tears streamed down my face. I hung up the phone and dropped to the ground. I sobbed like I never had before. This is what it feels like to instantly know that your life will never be the same. This was the day my sons were diagnosed with muscular dystrophy.

Something stunning about that night hangs in my mind. When I stopped crying and opened my bedroom door, I found my three beautiful children playing happily together. Giggles, laughs, and silly voices filled the air as I struggled to continue standing.  They were still my beautiful happy children, just as they had always been. My life may be different, but their ability to laugh had not been taken. Their joy was still there.

The next day we were admitted to the hospital for tests. I watched my innocent little boys endure needles, tests, and IV’s like tiny super heroes. The nurses showered them with gifts and told them what amazing boys they were. “They really are,” we’d smile.

I look back on those days in disbelief. It almost feels like someone else’s story, not ours. It seems like one day I will just wake up and go back to the life I had before. The life where everything felt perfect; and the one where I got upset over trivial things like bills, traffic, and a cluttered house. Oh, what I’d give to worry about things like that again.

To my surprise, life kept going. I remember wondering how the world could just keep turning like nothing had happened. Don’t people know that our life would never be the same? Don’t they know that just trying to catch my breath is now an act of God?  Nothing is the same and nothing will ever be the same. Along with the pain however, came something beautifully absent from a life without suffering. God gave us the gift of perspective.

All of a sudden very little bothered us or mattered to us anymore, and just about everything seemed trivial. Our love for each other felt deeper. Our children mattered, our family and friends mattered, and unshakable faith mattered, but a messy home, a parking ticket, a silly argument, and a spill on the floor failed to matter at all anymore.

Perspective always comes at a cost, but its presence is truly breathtaking.  I pray that as time passes we can keep the beautiful gift of perspective, even when pain is present too. I pray that God will help us find joy each and every day and so far He has.

One of my favorite Bible stories is found in the book of Esther. She becomes queen and saves her people from an awful fate. It’s a truly beautiful story about God’s ability to use ordinary people like you and me to do extraordinary things. After our boys were diagnosed, I couldn’t help but think about this story. It made me think about my own purpose.

I’ve always felt that my children were given to me, but I’ve now realized that I was given to them. God knew exactly what He was doing when He created me, and when He created them. My story is not that of a helpless victim. Quite the opposite in fact, I am the daughter of a king. I’m called to a higher purpose. My purpose may not be to run a country or to save lives like Esther did, but it’s amazing none the less. My purpose is to be my children’s mother, caretaker, and their ultimate cheerleader. My purpose is them.

“Perhaps you were created for such a time as this.” Esther 4:14

9 thoughts on “For Such A Time As This…

  1. Diane Goddard says:

    Oh Christi…you are an amazing child of God and HE has entrusted these beautiful children to you to love and protect through this challenge. Thank you for sharing your story. We will pray for each of your babies that the Lord will heal them. We will pray for you and Cole that Jesus will give you comfort, strength and wisdom.
    With HIS grace and blessings we pray for a miracle of perfect health.
    Sending our love to all of you…hugs to Doug and Cheryl

  2. Charla says:

    Amen Christi. You are an inspiration to me. God works in all things for the good for those who love Him and are called. All things means all things and you and Cole are definitely called. He works in mysterious ways His wonders to perform. So many struggle with their faith and their attitude toward God when hit hard. But you and Cole lead us all as we glimpse into the privilege of sharing in the suffering of Christ. As we know the nearness of our Lord to the broken-hearted. As we stand back and watch what God will do. Dad and I could not be prouder of you and Cole.

  3. Grant says:

    my heart goes out to you sweetheart I’m so sorry to hear of this and I want you to know you’re in my prayers God bless you and your wonderful husband And your kids I’m so sorry honey! Hang in there I love you guys!

  4. Lois says:

    Dear Christi,
    I was so sorry to hear the news about your children from your mom. She and I have been good friends for years and have gained strength from supporting each other through difficult times while always relying on Jesus and his unfailing love and mercy. You are a beautiful and talented writer and have truly been given a gift of being able to share Gods message with others. I love reading your blogs. I am keeping you and your whole family in my everyday thoughts and uplifting prayers and I know that God will give you strength, serenity, and grace.

    • mamaneedsmorecoffee says:

      Thank you Lois. Your friendship has meant so much to my mom. I’m very grateful for your prayers and kind words.

  5. Nicole B. says:

    I needed to read this. My morning has been filled with trivial things that certainly upset me. Your post gave me some perspective…thnak you! I pray God continues to strengthen you and your family.

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