To the mom who wants to homeschool, here are 5 things to consider. Whether you’re afraid of your ability to teach your child everything they need to know or you’re afraid of what people may say about your choice, I encourage you to keep reading. Homeschooling is a beautiful option, and so much of this life is extremely misunderstood. If you think you aren’t patient enough, smart enough or brave enough I encourage you to consider these 5 things.
God doesn’t call the equipped, he equips the called.
When I had my first baby over nine years ago I dreamed of homeschooling. I read about it, learned about it and hoped it would be my path someday. Many things contributed to our choice to send our kids to school, but I never felt a peace about it – EVER. I always felt a tug to homeschool, but I didn’t listen to the calling until recently. I figured I wasn’t patient enough, organized enough or social enough to pull it off, but I was wrong. God doesn’t call the equipped, he equips the called. We don’t start out confident and prepared for a new job or role that we’re given, we grow and learn as we go. That’s exactly what I’ve done and I love homeschooling more than I imagined I would.
Pray for peace as an answer.
As soon as my two son’s were diagnosed with Muscular Dystrophy a little over a year ago, we started praying about homeschooling for all three of our children. We enrolled them in school for the following year and set up meetings to get their accommodations in place, but I felt so unsettled. Even though the teachers were kind to us throughout the diagnosis, I couldn’t shake this feeling of turmoil inside me. My husband and I sat down to pray and discuss the pros and cons of public school vs. homeschool for our family. We decided homeschool would be best, and our kids were so excited when we told them.
Suddenly, I felt unshakable peace. I felt confident that even if I fell short, God never would. Often times I think we pray for an answer, not realizing what that answer will look like. I knew that the peace I felt as soon as we submitted our homeschool paperwork, was my answer that God was calling us to this new journey.
Remember what’s important.
It’s strange how all the things I thought were most important in life, changed after our boys were diagnosed with a degenerate disease. All of a sudden things like socialization, society expectations and other peoples’ opinions didn’t matter anymore. All we cared about was ensuring that our children were cared for, loved and taught to trust God’s plan for their lives. I don’t care if people think my choice is weird, God called me to it. I don’t care if people assume my children are isolated, they are happy at home. I don’t care is society tells us socialization can only come from a classroom setting, I know better.
God called us to this life so we press on day after day.
Ignore the nay-sayers.
I can’t tell you how often I hear moms tell me that they’ve thought about homeschooling too, but feel a lack of support from others. It’s sad how often people tell me about the insensitive comments they receive when they mention their interest in home education. Allow me to shed some light on this sad but true society behavior. Those that have never walked down your path, will NEVER understand it. People think they understand everything about a given subject because of their predetermined opinions about it, but how many of those opinions are based on facts and how many are just based on preconceived notions?
I’ve heard it said that…
Homeschoolers are unsocialized… actually homeschoolers spend just as much time socializing with other kids and adults than public school children who are told to only socialize at recess. Homeschoolers will not get into a good college… actually homeschoolers are sought after by elite colleges (including Ivy League schools) because they’re often self starters, motivated and have a strong family support system. Homeschoolers are deprived…my children begged me to homeschool them and they love this simple life we provide.
The next time you hear someone criticize homeschooling ask them if they have any personal experience with it, if not – ignore their opinions. To the mom who wants to homeschool, look to God for approval. His opinion is the only opinion that matters.
Learn to adapt and grow.
I’ve learned so much about homeschooling, and I’m only on my second year of teaching my children at home. As soon as I started that first year I felt a fire inside me to learn as much as I could about homeschooling. I sampled different curriculum, tried different routines and made lots of mistakes along the way. Now I feel confident that no matter what gets thrown our way, we will adapt and grow where we need to and continually make it work. Some days I’m patient, some days I’m not. Some days my children are interested in lessons, some days they’re not, but we never give up. Homeschooling is so misunderstood by so many people, but it’s not a one size fits all education.
Homeschooling for me means I can adapt to each of my children’s learning needs as they change. It means I can incorporate God. It means we can add in subjects that interest them. It means that every single day I can wake up and enjoy the simplicity and beauty of being home with my children. Every day I’m blessed to be able to spend quality time with my children, time that I will always cherish.
So to the mom who wants to homeschool, figure out what homeschooling looks like for you and then ask God to equip you for the role. Because let me assure you – it’s a valuable, wonderful and life changing journey that I wouldn’t trade for the world.